The children had to think of another parent (a mother) and her (most often) feelings, her needs of, I don't know, creating the happy family, maybe even the model family? The children had to show smiling faces and glittering eyes. Especially those days, but also at other times and occasions. Not to forget all those other occasions.
I also came to think about defences, those Bosch writes about, as now False Power Anger. We all use the same defences, women as men, but individuals tend to prefer certain… Women False Hope and men False Power. And we all use the Primary defence under all other defences, meaning that we blame ourselves. For instance we blame ourselves that we can't be so happy strikes me now!
Now I am writing from my memory of what Bosch writes.
If we admitted those things we would help people with those problems. And I think (stronlgy believes) it is possible to do things to “cure” those things… Contrary to what many many "experts" think!!?? Which means the only option isn't to cope with them!! Or having to deal with this miserable life.
If the society wasn’t in such a denial. I am a bit angry...
Maybe I return to this topic later.
But I wish all from deep in my heart a